An important part of being an adult is being a good parent to yourself. In other words, looking out for your own well-being.
This means giving yourself permission to say no – to anything that doesn’t serve you.
If you’re used to saying yes a lot, saying no might be a bit difficult at first. Especially if, like so many people, you are worried about what others might think of you. Or, if you feel like you are letting someone else down by saying no.
Being a good parent is actually a form of practicing good self-care. It’s about being learning to be kind to you.
Now, if learning to behave in a loving way towards yourself is going to be a process, you’re not alone. I know that I was well-practiced at lecturing myself and pointing out my own mistakes, and it took time to re-learn those habits. It can take some practice to become a good parent.
The first step is noticing how you typically talk to yourself. It’s all too common for many of us to over-commit, or say yes to things we really don’t want to do, and then berate ourselves for not getting it all done.
Honor what you really want or need: practice saying no.
Saying no to what you don’t want leaves you plenty of time to say yes to what you do.